Ralph Greco, Jr.
On a recent Ophra show titled: "Make Over My Man" the 'fashion guru' Tim Gunn called men out for their lack of fashion sense (of course presuming that there is even something called 'fashion' and not simply some annual opinions opined by the rich), by making them over. Sure Ophra's near all-woman audience cheered, the guys claimed they felt more confident post makeover, but what galls me about these shows is how they are simply another indication of the American media's constant pussyfication of the American male.
I once read a quote (and I'm paraphrasing): 'Women choose a man for the man they hope he will become, men choose a woman for the woman he wants her to remain'. This is pretty much spot on and the root of our hetero relationship problems as far as I'm concerned. You can't go changing someone, or trying to stop them from changing, it's just not going to work. But I would offer that our culture has allowed for more of the former sentiment then the latter in that quote. James Brown sang "It's a man's world" but baby, it ain't really.
Ever watch "Every Body Loves Ramon", there's the perfect example of the pussified man, cowering from his mother and wife. This mate-as-mommy syndrome is everywhere and it fed that Ophra show as much as it feeds every other aspect of our society that subtly subjugates men so we feel we are never good enough, make enough, or look 'fashionable' enough (of course presuming that there is even something called 'fashion' and not simply some annual opinions opined by the rich…oh sorry, I repeat myself). As much as the media in this country attempts to brainwash women that they can never be skinny enough, so do we get the signs-loud and clear-that men simply must change to a standard women (or gay men) are selling.
Never heard the term 'sex addict' til now have you? Sure there's many more ways to get 'it' these days, one need not even leave their computer, but didn't it used to be guys were just horny? Now our mate-mommies, doctor's, coworkers want us to see a therapist to, once again, pussify us (please don't get on me about women sex addicts, I am talking from only the male perspective here). Got a bad temper, you need anger management, maybe even a pill. God forbid we travel too far away from our girlfriends without the cell phone; mate-mommy has to be able to keep tabs on us…all my mom cared about was that I checked in when the streetlights winked on!
And how dare we think we're going out dressed like that!?
That Gunn guy called it the 'slobification of America'; he was close but had the first part of that word wrong as far as I'm concerned. During one segment of the show women were interviewed in a mall about this men fashion problem and the ladies (not all dressed attractive as far as I was concerned) went to town about uni-brows, bad footwear and pant choices of their men. What did I say as I witnessed their wailing? "Hey, if this is all you got to complain about" (and in all fairness they were being asked about their men's fashion sense… of course presuming that there is even something called 'fashion' and not simply some annual opinions opined by the rich. Sorry I did it again) "then," I continued to say to myself. "you must have wonderful husband-father-boyfriend at home'.
Men who they are no doubt attempting to twist and change every second of their day.
I'm telling you boys, we don't need Leonardo DiCap around to tell us that this fashion thang is simply the tip of the pussy iceberg.
Ralph Greco, Jr. is an internationally published author of short stories, plays, essays, button slogans, 800# phone sex scripts, children’s songs and SEO copy. Ralph is also an ASCAP licensed songwriter/performer and Internet radio D.J. He lives in the wilds of suburban NJ, where he attempts to keep his ever-expanding ego in check.